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Routines that survive your actual life

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A father sits on the edge of the bed reading one book to his son at bedtime, lamp-lit and calm.
Teeth, one book, lights out — the small routine that survives a real life.

The short version, first

Three things are true about routines:

  1. A routine isn't discipline. It's a decision you've already made, so your tired brain doesn't have to make it again tonight. That's the whole point of one — it runs on its own instead of running down your tank.
  2. Routines fall over for every family. Not the disorganised ones. Every one. A missed day, a bad week, a holiday that throws the whole thing out — that's normal, and it doesn't undo the work.
  3. A routine falling over isn't a failure of yours. It's just what routines do. The skill that actually matters isn't keeping one going forever. It's starting it again without making it mean something about you.

That's the short version. Here's what's underneath it.

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